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Courage is being yourself every day in a world tha

Courage is being yourself every day in a world that tells you to be someone else ❤️

Feeling excited to be featured in @gulfnews today,

Feeling excited to be featured in @gulfnews today, sharing my views on how to prevent children from becoming people pleasers based on the work I do with my coaching clients. The exercises are relevant for both adults and children.

Save and share with anyone who you know would benefit ❤️

Let’s talk about something that isn’t very sex

Let’s talk about something that isn’t very sexy and kinda makes us roll our eyes. And that is the importance of self-discipline 🌟

When we talk about self-love it can be easy to think that it simply refers to self-care, pampering yourself and doing things that make you feel great in that moment.

But it’s so much more than that. If we’re constantly doing things in our lives based on how we feel then we probably wouldn’t end up doing very much because being motivated most of the time is pretty much impossible.

That’s why making decisions for yourself need to be based on more than how you feel but also what you NEED. It’s essentially creating a balance between what makes your current self happy and what your future self will thank you for. And that’s where self-discipline comes in because let’s be real, living a life just based on instant pleasures makes you feel great in the short time, but only results in you feeling exactly the same afterwards. But doing things you don’t always feel like doing knowing that you’re going to feel so much better in the long term brings about such a greater level of satisfaction and fulfillment.

When I began reframing self-discipline= self-love everything changed for me because I was no longer FORCING myself to get things done, but instead doing them to pour into my cup and to get me one step closer to where I want to be.

What can you do today that your future self will thank you for? 💕

Life will continue to throw curveballs your way an

Life will continue to throw curveballs your way and bring newness, whether it’s a new job, a new relationship, a period of transition, which will result in you continuously learning more about yourself as you adapt to different circumstances.

Yes you might practise self-love when all is good, but then as soon as you experience a break up your natural instinct might be to blame yourself, judge yourself and speak to yourself in a really unkind way.

Or maybe you’ve worked really hard to finally get to the position you’ve been trying to get to for such a long time, but then as soon as you’ve got there, you’re continuously comparing yourself to other people and telling yourself that you’re not good enough and doubting your abilities.

For this reason I truly believe that self-love is an ongoing journey. You need to continuously nurture the relationship you have with yourself and practise kindness and compassion regardless of what’s going on externally. Yes sometimes it will be hard, sometimes you won’t feel like it, sometimes you’ll forget but once you begin to learn how, it will start to become so much easier and natural over time.

In case you’ve forgotten today. You are beautiful, you are amazing & unique, and don’t you dare let anyone make you feel otherwise! 💕

What is your biggest fear when it comes to speakin

What is your biggest fear when it comes to speaking in front of others whether it be professionally or socially?

🌟 the fear of everyone noticing how nervous you are.
🌟 going blank and forgetting what you have to say.
🌟 people thinking that you’re not interesting and don’t have anything to say.
🌟 being reminded of how much more confident everyone else is than you.

This is why working on developing self-confidence is so crucial in order to communicate. Because without it you will continue to hold yourself back from expressing your ideas, speaking up and building strong relationships which will only result in you continuing to feel frustrated because you know you’re capable of SO much more.

If you feel it’s time to really start making positive changes within yourself so that you can bring out the fire that’s sitting inside of you, drop me a DM and let’s schedule a call to discuss how I can help you ❤️

Instagram vs reality😅 This is your reminder to

Instagram vs reality😅

This is your reminder to not always take yourself so seriously. Remember to play, laugh and be in the moment. One area that I work with my coaching clients on is how to feel more alive and bring back the energy that they feel they’ve lost. We often look externally for certain places, experiences or people to give us enjoyment, but really it’s all about what’s going on in our minds.

You could be in the most exotic resort, staying in the best hotel, but if you’re preoccupied with stressing about your stress at work, your relationship problems and all the other things you’re stressing about, then you’re only physically there but mentally somewhere else (oh but at least you got great photos from the gram!). And what a shame that would be for you to miss out on such amazing experiences.

Life is made up of so many amazing moments but you will fail to recognise them if you’re always somewhere else. Gift yourself the practise of mindfulness. No matter where you are or who you’re with, be fully 100% in the moment and notice just how great it feels❤️

One of the most LIBERATING things you can do that

One of the most LIBERATING things you can do that will honestly change your life is letting go of your need to be liked and accepted by everyone.

The reality is not everyone will like you. You can be the kindest, sweetest, funniest, smartest person and there may be someone who still decides that they don’t like you. Just because. And that’s okay. If you spend your life trying to be liked by everyone, all you’re going to do is end up continuously moulding yourself into a version of yourself you think you need to be in order to be validated by others. And how unfair is that to yourself? You’re sending the message to yourself that who you are as you is not enough. Downplaying amazing qualities such as courage, boldness, weirdness, being ambitious happens way too much because of fear of what will happen when we shine. Maybe people will judge us? Maybe they’ll think ‘who does she think she is?’ Maybe they won’t want to spend time with us anymore. Great. Let them. By being authentic to you, you’re filtering out the people who don’t want good for you and creating the space to meet people who do.

But don’t you daaaare dim your light to fit in when you have SO much more inside of you❤️

Question. What’s one thing you can do today that

Question. What’s one thing you can do today that your future self will thank you for? ❤️

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